It’s been a long time since we posted, so I decided to post on a topic that has come up during many of our previous meetings and sessions throughout this adoption process. Bonding is an important issue with all new parents. Throughout our homestudy process and through articles we have read, we have come across a few suggestions on bonding with an adopted child. One suggestion that appears most often is that adoptive parents should limit the number of people who feed the baby. Feeding time is one of the most intimate times in a newborn’s life and it is important for the adoptive parents to experience that intimacy, whether or not the mother is planning to breastfeed. So, in light of this, please don’t be offended if we don’t offer to let you feed the new baby…we really are just trying to bond with our child.
Here are some articles that have further suggestions on how to bond with an adopted child.